Showing posts with label pet peeves. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pet peeves. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

It's Beginning To Sound A Lot Like Christmas - Sorta

I am funny about Christmas. I love Christmas and all my holidays, but I want to savor them individually and on my own terms. In other words, I am so anti Christmas (and Halloween and Valentine's Day and Easter and...) being shoved down my throat.

Come the Saturday after Thanksgiving, I'm generally ready to start thinking about Christmas. I'm ready to get out the decorations, find a tree and decorate it, and put on the holiday music stations on my car. I've noticed the past couple years that I'm actually not quite ready for that on Thanksgiving weekend. In fact, shhhhh, although I hosted a cookie exchange at my house on Sunday, we have yet to put up a single decoration, including the advent tree that counts down to Christmas. Oops.

I am getting into the spirit, though. Christmas music is generally a good indicator for me. I'll turn on a holiday station - fortunately one in Chicago obliged us with 24 hour Christmas music the first full week of November - beginning the Saturday after Thanksgiving. If I'm not quite ready to listen, I'll put it back to another station and try again another day. I'm not quite sure why, but eventually something clicks and I love the music again and listen to it nonstop until the stations revert to their typical fare a couple days after Christmas (or 6pm on Christmas day as one station does, sadly; I guess they need to get ready for the next holiday!).

I do adore Christmas music, and I began listening to it this past weekend. I found all sorts of old favorites from Bing Crosby singing anything to great brass arrangements on Holiday Pops to songs from A Charlie Brown Christmas (yes, there is more than one) to John Denver and the Muppets singing The Twelve Days of Christmas.

This year, I've learned some new songs. It really amazes me - especially on Holiday Traditions on XM, note the word "Traditions" - how many pop stars now must have Christmas albums from Christina Aguilara to Glee (a whole soundtrack, I'm guessing, although I don't like their treatment of my favorite from The Grinch Who Stole Christmas) to Jason Mraz and more.

I had no idea that Run DMC even had a Christmas song, but it's hilarious.



It's almost as good as my favorite songs by Dr. Elmo (ummm yes I do own that CD, why?). They're not totally G rated, but nothing in them is too terrible for a child to hear. The new song by Lady GaGa, however? Granted, I'm not a huge fan of most of the covers of classic songs that many of today's artists are making, but this... this is a different animal altogether.

I fortunately heard the song for the first - and only - time while I was alone in the car. I heard it on Holiday Traditions on XM, something I would have assumed would be safe for me to listen to with the wee ones. Nope, not so much.

From the opening line of "Light me up put me on top" which I am pretty sure isn't just referring to the star of the Christmas tree, although I can explain away innuendo to the wee ones still, I was taken aback by the song. I had to listen to the whole thing - sort of like when you see a car wreck and can't look away. "My Christmas tree's delicious" raised my eyebrows further, but again... innuendo. It isn't exactly appropriate for a Christmas song, especially not on a radio station like this in my opionion, but I'll survive.

The final straw that finalized the decision that the wee ones won't be hearing this "Christmas" song in my presence? The refrain states, "Yes everybody knows we will take off all our clothes. Yes, if you want us to we will."

That to me is not Christmas. I'll be searching for some better Christmas music this week.

What new songs have you discovered this year that you either love or hate?

Current Giveaways:
Thomas and Friends Adventure on Misty Island Mega Blocks set here
Lawry's Complete Meal Ideas Gift Pack with casserole here
The Dolphin: Story of a Dreamer DVD with 2 winners here


Thursday, November 11, 2010

Oh Yeah - Til Death Do Us Part

Last night, I had a brainstorm after my husband and I had a ... discussion of him not eating his pizza crusts and therefore wasting food (he doesn't just not eat the bready tip parts but leaves behind some of the sauce and cheese that are at the end of the pizza slice) - not choosing to simply take a middle piece befuddles me. Granted, it's a silly thing, but isn't that the point of marriage? Having fun and enjoying the little silly things?

Forget the cherishing, the keeping in sickness and in health. There are more important things we forgot. Without Further Ado (or is that without further "I do" - ha!), I present to you my top ten list of items I neglected to include in my (husband's) wedding vows:

10) I will eat all that my wife puts in front of me, whether it's my favorite food or whether it is something that I need to tolerate.

9) I will always empty the trash when it begins to near the top of the trash can without reminders from others in the household.

8) When I pick something up, I will replace it where I found it.

Corollary: I will remember where that place is the next time I want to use it.

7) When it is bedtime for the children, I will not start unrelated projects that distract them from going to bed and me from helping them to get ready for bed.

6) When there is icky, nasty food that's been left in the fridge for far too long, I will uncomplainingly remove it from its container out of my wife's sight and smell, dispose of it, and clean said container.

5) I will offer nightly foot massages.

4) I will not start up my car and run it for ten minutes before leaving the house in the morning once Jack Frost begins visiting. Instead of wasting gas and money, I will not be lazy and instead will scrape the frost from my car.

3) When sent to the grocery store with a list, I will purchase the items requested.

Corollary: I will not come home with random other items that are not needed or wanted in the household.

2) I will let me wife get the mail from the mailbox, knowing that it brings her an unexpected sense of pleasure to be the one to get and sort through the mail.

and the number one thing I forgot to add to my (husband's) wedding vows?

1) I shall learn to chew with my mouth closed and without smacking my lips.

So what kinds of things did you neglect to include in your wedding vows that you wish you could renegotiate?



Current Giveaways:
Family pass to the Chicago Toy and Game Fair in Chicago November 20 or 21 here
Activeion ionator HOM $180RV here
Fiber One Prize Pack including a $25 gift card here

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

No One Speaks French Anymore

*sigh*

(Note: That's my subtle cue that I have a slight rant coming - beware)

Mister Man's birthday party is this coming Sunday. Invitations went home in backpacks to both first grade classrooms almost three weeks ago. The invitations included an RSVP request with email and phone numbers for both me and the co-host (he's doing his party with Violet, thus both classes are invited so all their friends can be there). The RSVPs were clearly marked that they were due by this past Monday.

As of this morning - when I have to call to give the final number of guests - thirteen of the thirty-four invited guests had yet to respond. That's almost forty percent of people who couldn't be bothered to let us know whether or not they were able to attend the party.

I sent out an email to all of them - and I'll call the stragglers tonight - this morning with "please respond" in the title of the email. Interestingly, I've since had five people respond since that email went out. My assumption was that those who didn't respond weren't able to attend and therefore hadn't responded. Actually, no. Two of the five are coming and had just "forgotten" to RSVP.

I had a conversation this morning with a friend about this, and her theory is that people simply don't know what RSVP means anymore. (It's French. Respondez s'il vous plait - answer, if you please.) RSVP regrets only means you only need to let the host know if you aren't coming. RSVP means tell the host of your plans regardless. I'm not so sure I fully buy her theory though.

Let me give you a different example:

I recently hosted a fortieth birthday party for my husband. It was a surprise party, and I was hosting it at a sports bar where I was providing food and open bar. I sent the invitation via evite since it was the easiest way to get contact information for his friends. By the date I'd requested a response, way less than half the group had responded. I sent out an email explaining that I needed final numbers to provide for food purposes, as I couldn't easily change them after that day. I was very clear on that point.

The responses poured in, but I still was missing about a dozen. I mentally wrote those people off. I now had the opposite problem. Knowing my husband and his friends, the room I had his surprise party in seated fifteen. Ninteen people responded that they were coming. I spent the next four days worried about how we were going to fit all those people in the room.

Apparently I had other things to worry about. Of the ninteen people, nine showed up. That nine includes my husband and me. Of the ten who simply didn't show, two called me to tell me that they couldn't make it and apologized. Both were friends of mine, as well. The others? They just ... flaked. And so we were left with a ton - almost literally - of uneaten food and a bill far larger than I'd needed. I was not a happy camper.

This isn't simply an RSVP problem anymore. It's an all around manners and etiquette issue. Is this to say that I've never forgotten to respond to an invitation or misplaced one? Absolutely not. I certainly don't do it on a regular basis, however - and never when I've been prompted.

The next time I have a party, I'm going to skip RSVP. Just in case. The next time, I'll stick with "I need to know if you're coming or not - call me." Do you think that will be clear enough?



Current Giveaways:
Family 4 pack of tickets to Ringling Brothers in Chicago at the UC November 17 here
Family Taco Night prize pack here

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Yep, They're Teaching Your Kids, Too...

Current Giveaways:

Precious Moments here
9Lives Prize Pack here
Eucerin Gift Bags here

***

When I was growing up, I looked up to my teachers. I felt they could do no wrong. Long after I realized that my parents were only human, I still adored my teachers. I lapped up what they served without question. It wawsn't until later that I realized they, too, were imperfect.

I wrote yesterday about how I have a thing with grammar and discovered a book where someone went through and did the editing after printing - yep, a library book. It cracked me up.

It doesn't crack me up so much when it's a teacher making the same mistakes. I hold teachers to a higher standard since they're the ones who are imparting the rules to impressionable children who may forever make mistakes if they don't know a subject backwards and forwards themselves.

And I do see it on a disappointingly regular basis. The wee ones' teachers send home weekly newsletters to the parents notifying us of what has transpired in the past week and what homework the kids should focus on in the coming week.

They aren't that complicated, nor are they terribly complex. That doesn't stop the teachers from making basic mistakes that cause me to cringe over what the wee ones are and will be learning from them.

Some recent examples:

Its the first Friday of the month... - Ummm, no, "It's the first Friday" actually. It is. It's. It's is a contraction of the two words it is. Its is a possessive pronoun meaning belonging to it. It does not own the first Friday, nor can it.

Between the three classrooms, we have... - Seriously? You can only be between two things. You have to be "among" three or more things. Or amongst if you lived in Europe and still tend to use some of their words.

Try to do this each day and make sure... - Run-on sentence alert. Those are two separate commands, each standing on its own as an individual sentence if needed. Please add a comma after "day" to show where the two sentences split.

Their is a field trip... - Really? Their, there, and they're sound the same, but they are definitely not the most complex of the homynyms. They're is a contraction. Their means belonging to them. The field trip belongs to them?

We hope your enjoying... - Another one? Your and you're are just like its and it's. Go back to the rule my third grade teacher taught: "When using a word like you're, it's, and the like, say it without the contraction 'it is Sunday' or 'you are a girl' to see if you should use the contraction or not."

Sometimes I think it's a shame that I don't have the patience for homeschooling. It's appalling to me that teachers who are focusing on grammar for young students don't know the rules themselves. I remind myself that I'm not perfect either, and instead I'll be going over the wee ones' homework daily to ensure that they learn to use grammar properly. It's probably not a bad refresher for me anyway!

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

At Least I'm Not The Only One...

Current Giveaways:

9Lives Prize Pack here
Eucerin Gift Bags here

***

I love grammar. I know, I know... it's unusual, but I really do. I love the rules of it, and it makes language flow so easily when they're followed. I have always had a relatively easy time figuring out how grammar works, whether because I read so much as a child or because I learned French at a young age which then translated well, I'm not sure. (I will admit that I'm nowhere near perfect, but I generally managed to avoid the most egregious errors!)

Not surprisingly, bad grammar has become a pet peeve of mine. I see it everywhere. In fact, I have a wedding coming up and chose the B&B where my husband and I will stay based on which one had the fewest grammatical errors on its site. "We except VISA and Mastercard" and "...room has seperete queen beds" being only two examples of what I saw.

It drives me most nuts when I see errors in newspapers and books. Books are edited repeatedly by multiple people. Simple errors just shouldn't happen, but I see spelling errors all the time. I see places where quotation marks were forgotten or words horribly misused and more. When I see these errors, I mentally cringe.

Apparently some people feel even more strongly than I do. I was recently reading a book (yeah yeah - it was a historical romance, my brain candy) and throughout, someone had let their feelings be known.


Who and whom are among the most difficult distinctions for people to make. This reader is correct that "whom" should be used here, but I have to admit that I generally give people a pass when they misuse these two words.


This was the one where I somewhat disagreed with the ahhhh editor.  While the sentence is more proper with "dancing with him made possible her difficult vow to avoid Magnus" than "dancing with him made her difficult vow to avoid Magnus possible," I don't have an issue with the way it's written. Ahhh, someone who's pickier than I. Finally.


This one is a pet peeve of mine, however. Between requires "her" without a doubt. I had a teacher once who explained it to the class this way: "Replace the word with I or me (as the case may be). It's much easier to see which one sounds better. Then be sure to use the corresponding form of the pronoun you want to use." Watch.  "transpired between I and Magnus" - ouch! Doesn't that hurt your ears? Let's try "transpired between me and Magnus" - ahhhh, much better!


Made up words are another pet peeve of mine. I'll never forget working on consulting and having a partner actually use the (non)word "orientated" in a presentation. Don't get me started on "irregardless." Apparently this reader felt the same way about "portraiturist."

Near the end of the book, I think this poor reader reached her limit. I love her display of frustration. (I assume it's a her both because of the type of book and by looking at the handwriting, but I could be wrong, I suppose.)


Seeing these little updates in the book made me giggle - even more than the book itself did. I've often dreamt of becoming an editor so that I could fix these types of errors (as well as so I could rewrite poorly written passages). It's always nice to see that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I'll bet it was awfully satisfying to fix that pet peeve.

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Stay OUT Of My Way!

Everyone has pet peeves, things that people do or say that just grrrrrrrrrrrrATE on their nerves. Everyone's pet peeves are different, which makes it easier for all of us to annoy each other, of course, but I'm realizing that I have some doozies.

Top Ten Pet Peeves:

#10 I hate it when people park in a handicapped spot when they shouldn't.
This was a major irritation to me last year when the moms at Little Miss's preschool would park in the handicapped spots -- including the ones that weren't spots because they were all whited out to give the handicapped people enough room to get in and out -- because they were closer to the sidewalk. And they'd do this even before other spots were filled. And they'd do this even though parking on the street would actually have them closer to the door. Fortunately, we're at a different preschool this year, and my blood pressure thanks me for it. But I still see it periodically elsewhere.

#9 Today's version of screwball comedies.
Did we have stupid movies when I was growing up? Sure, Spaceballs made no sense. Dirty Rotten Scoundrels was stupid. The Vacation movies were totally campy. Caddyshack was a bit over the top. But they were good clean fun.

Now? Honestly, I can't even bring myself to go watch the comedies today. They're vulgar and potty humor. And those are the good points. Really, can't we be clever without resorting to this? Have we sunk so low?

#8 Hotels that don't have sleep timers on their flippers.
I know you aren't supposed to read in bed, and I know you aren't supposed to watch tv in bed -- something about it making it hard to fall asleep or something. But I do this every night. It's my way of unwinding. I read a newspaper or magazine or -- if I'm really lucky -- a book while having the Food Network on in the background. When I'm relaxed enough for sleep, I turn off the light and set down the magazine. The tv goes off on its own, and I listen to it somewhat as I fall asleep.

Except if I'm in a hotel that doesn't have a sleep timer on the flipper. Or worse yet, it has a button for the sleep timer but the button doesn't function. Then I'm stuck with the tv on. Sometime in the middle of the night, I have to wake up enough to turn it off and then manage to fall back asleep. Really, this has been a standard function on tvs for decades. Why can't hotels all have it, too?

#7 Tin foil and plastic wrap.
I'm left-handed, and did you know that both of those items are made for right-handed people? Seriously, go try to rip off a sheet of either using your left hand to rip and right hand to hold the box. Go ahead, I'll wait.

See, it just ripped into an ugly crumpled up mess, didn't it? I finally learned how to do it right-handed, but it feels so wrong! Would it really be that hard to make it work both-handed?

#6 Grammatical errors, especially the simple ones.
I know it's been a long time since fifth grade English, but certain things drive me batty.

Its is a possessive pronoun. It's is a contraction of the words it is. They are not interchangeable.

Compliment is when you say something nice to a person. Complement is when something goes well with or improves upon something else. Totally different. Ketchup cannot compliment a hot dog (and not only because ketchup and hot dogs should never meet) because it can't talk.

Incentivize is not a word. Incentification is not a word. Incentivize is not a word.

And I'll spare you the lecture. Most of you don't write for the paper I read that has grammatical errors strewn about it.

#5 People who gloat when they win.
I remember learning about playing games fairly when I was just a small child. Do I like winning? Heck yeah. I also like playing the game again, which means that I don't rub it in people's faces when I win. Or take it too seriously when I lose, for that matter.

The people who play in my husband's baseball league have forgotten that rule. There is a guy who was tossed from the league last year from threatening bodily harm to an ump one too many times. And the cursing and helmet tossing that goes on? You'd think it was life or death. I see examples of this all the time, and it really saddens me.

Read between the lines if you will, but if you can't win nicely no one wants to play with you, and that's a really lonely life. And not healthy for the greater community.

#4 My husband's driving.
Ok, so this may be a common one, I'll admit.

When he sees a red light ahead, does he slow down? Nooooo, he keeps going at the same rate of speed and then has to jerk to a stop. Guess how he starts up from a stop!

The left lane is his home, regardless of how quickly he is going in relation to others or how few people are on the road. It's illegal (see pet peeve #10) and it's just not a good idea in general. And he refuses to admit that it's illegal to drive in the left lane when not passing. It is. I looked it up.

Oh, and he doesn't use a turn signal when "there aren't others who need to know" in his mind or come to a full stop if there aren't other cars around. When the wee ones are in the car, I feel it's important to follow the letter of the law so that they pick up on good driving habits and are safer drivers as they get older. *sigh*

#3 What happened to a good, old-fashioned turn signal?
There's a light near my house where the smaller road turns onto the municpal highway. The sounthbound part of the road mostly has people turning left but some who go straight. They get a left arrow to start the signal. The northbound people tend to go both left, right and straight. And when I come northbound wanting to turn left to get to my house, I have people approaching the intersection who appear to be going straight, and so I wait since I don't want to crash into someone else. Suddenly the car veers to its left and *gasp* turns. Silly me for waiting. Why would I expect notification that it would be safe for me to turn.

#2 Finger and toe nail clipping freak me out.
Seriously, it's like nails on a chalkboard. It actually hurts me to hear that noise. And do you want to know how often I go to work and hear people sitting in their little areas clip clip clipping away? First, it's completely inappropriate and just plain gross to do personal grooming while sitting at your desk working, but second dude, everyone can hear you. ICK!

And you wonder why my husband has the sole finger and toenail clipping responsibilities for the wee ones. And he has to do it upstairs in the bathroom. With the door closed. And the fan on. And I need to be in the basement.

#1 Why does Little Miss feel the need to poop in her pants?
She's potty trained. She's totally potty trained and has been for months. Back in August or so, we were having a little issue with it where she'd leave streaks in her underwear. We resolved it. My husband of course tried bribing her with candy which meant she asked for candy morning noon and night -- not that I predicted this or anything, so I nipped that in the bud -- and came down on the mean mommy strategy of Little Miss who KNOWS to ask and is totally potty trained loses two favorite toys when she poops in her underwear. If she finishes in the potty, she earns one back. It worked beautifully, and she's been totally fine since.

Ok, until Tuesday morning when there was not just a streak in her night time Pull-Up but a full on poop. She was ver sad and told me that she'd called for me in the night but that I hadn't come. I felt sorry for her and said it was ok. Tuesday after nap? Another full poop in the Pull-Up. Tuesday night after dinner? ANOTHER one. Today when my mom got her home from daycare? Yep. And then forty-five minutes later playing in the basement? Uh-huh. Needless to say, my dresser is a little full right now, and her bedroom is looking more empty.

Why, oh WHY, has she decided that it's ok to poop in her pants? She knows what she's doing, and she knows to ask. Here's hoping my little chat with her tonight helps the issue -- and the chat was a positive one about how she knows how to do this and can just ask for help.

So how about you? What are your biggest pet peeves?

  © Blogger template 'Solitude' by Ourblogtemplates.com 2008

Back to TOP