Friday, January 6, 2012

Twitter: Who Am I To Talk?

I wasn't the first person to join Twitter, and I certainly don't have the most followers. And I'm starting to ignore it more and more. I suspect I'm not the only one. Its evolution is beginning to remind me of blog. Remember the days where we visited other blogs and left comments on them because it was a part of the community we were creating? Now it frequently feels like so many are so busy building the biggest and best blog they can that they have removed themselves from the community building to some degree. While they look for and expect comments on their blog - and frequently they'll interact with the commenters - they no longer visit others, and even when they do, they don't comment.

Maybe I'm following the wrong people on Twitter, but as I watch the Twitter stream go by in the corner of my stream as I work on a post or check email, I've begun to notice a trend. The tweets are no longer part of a conversation and building community. More and more, they are purely promotional either for a brand, of another blogger or of themselves. And I have to say, there's only so much of that kind of tweet that interests me. While I absolutely will self promote with info about my latest post, that's not the majority of my tweets. I'd much rather have conversations with others, learn something, share something, laugh about something. Wouldn't you?

I actually took a count of my last one hundred tweets in my stream and charted them. And I'm more depressed about Twitter than I was before. I wasn't imagining it. Twitter really has become simply a promotional tool, or at least it is for the majority of those I follow - at least this afternoon. Granted, there were no Twitter parties going on when I took my survey. When those occur, they completely take over my stream. And perhaps this is a middle of the day thing and there would be more conversations at night. I'm going to repeat my experiment this evening.

Royalty free image courtesy FreeDigitalPhotos.net

My findings (and note that because of the categories, the total will add to more than 100 percent):
Five percent of tweets were what I would consider "conversation starters" - things where someone asked a question or made a statement that invites a response. Only eight percent were actual conversations. Interestingly, one person was involved in half of those interactions and not one of them came from the potential conversation starters in that selection. There were also another nine percent that retweeted someone else's tweet but included commentary in it. Almost half of those were "thanks" for a mention, but the others were were genuine interactions that could have led to further interactions. In the end though, just over one in five tweets is about connecting with someone? That makes me sad.

Twenty-two percent were what I would call random comments that didn't involve mentioning another user. Those comments are ones that may draw interactions from someone else, and in my very judgemental mind, those tweets are good. Someone who tweets that they hate sending a certain kind of email or vents about a lack of sleep? That shares information that I can appreciate, and I may interact with that tweet. The majority of my tweets fall into this category, although I also make a concerted effort to reply to others' tweets because I do want that community. Do you?

On the flip side, forty-six percent of the tweets were self-promotion, mostly announcements of posts that the author wished followers to read. There were another eighteen tweets that publicized someone else's post. I can't forget the four percent that were retweets simply to promote themselves or their links. What you find in your stream may be higher than that, as I have purposely unfollowed some people who tweeted way too often other people's links. I didn't see any sponsored tweets, although they do come through my stream periodically. I'm not too bothered by those so long as they don't become predominant in the streams, although I'm guessing some of these self-promotional tweets should have included an #ad or #spon tag. Sixty-eight percent of my stream is pure promotion though. And that's a big reason why Twitter is losing its allure for me.

What about you? What does your Twitter stream look like? What do your tweets look like? And is it working for you? I'm nowhere near saying that I'm done with Twitter, but I think I need to do some selective unfollowing... and maybe I need to search out some new tweeps to add to those I follow. Any suggestions?

Thursday, January 5, 2012

I'm Not Joking When I Say I'm Not Photogenic

With my resolve to update my blog - and improve it, of course - I realized I should probably update my profile picture. I use the same photo across all sites from my Facebook fan page (you do like my Facebook page, right?) to Twitter (ummm, and of course you follow my brilliant witticisms on Twitter, too?) to my profile here and on Google+ (no comment needed, I assume). The photo is a year and a half or two years old. It was taken long before I donated my hair last year, which actually wasn't the first time I donated my hair. Since that time, I haven't taken a decent picture.

Seriously.

I have no pictures of myself that weren't, quite simply, hideous. I take horrid pictures. If I'm going to put up a photo, I at least want it to be a good one, right? And I tried. I truly, truly tried. And I failed miserably. With the planned change in my blog, it's time to really change my profile, however. I've spent enough times meeting people and going to conferences handing out cards and explaining that yes, the photo on the card actually is me, but I have no hair now. It's time.

I enlisted the help a friend of mine to take photos. We took (well, ok, she took over four hundred photos. I've culled them, and I'm still not sure what I'll put up. That said, I stand by my assessment that I take horrid photos. I was trying - honestly trying - for a good photo.












Really, I was trying. And having said that, I don't think I get to complain anymore about trying to take pictures of the wee ones. Apparently, when they say they're trying, they really are.

There were a few photos that merit consideration, but none of them really stand out as saying "Wow! Choose this one as the profile picture because it's so awesome!" - much to my disappointment, of course. Does anyone have tips on how to smile normally? Or at least naturally?

Below are the photos I'm currently considering making my new profile pic. I'm begging for your thoughts and suggestions and preferences because obviously this is a decision that I'm not up to making by myself. Besides, I figured you could use a laugh. Leave a comment with your vote (and other suggestions)? I have one semi-favorite, but I'm not telling you which one it is!







Wednesday, January 4, 2012

I Am SO Not A Morning Person....

I am so not a morning person. One of the things I hated most about working was the necessity for me to wake up at the crack of dawn and be on the road by 6:15am. Apparently I never grew out of that teenage need for sleep.

This morning, I was in the bathroom brushing my teeth after my alarm woke me up - because I never wake up voluntarily on school days (wow, I really do sound like a teenager, don't I?). As I stared sightlessly ahead, the rhythmic brushing tempting me to close my eyes and go back to sleep standing there, I heard the middle school bus drive past my house, as it always does at 7:06am.


For the first time, it dawned on me that the middle school bus picks kids up - and it doesn't stop to wait for stragglers - at 7:06am. And I know from experience that the high school bus comes by at 6:12am. Considering we wake up almost an hour before we need to be out the door, I started calculating what time the wee ones would need to wake up in middle and high school to be on time, recognizing that they will likely require more time for showers in the morning and makeup and other tasks.

I'm pretty sure I groaned audibly.

As a mom, I think it's my responsibility to ensure that I'm up when the wee ones are. And that they get to school safely, with backpacks and lunches. Yikes. I have a feeling I'm going to start looking forward to the college years once we hit middle school, and that's just wrong. If only I were a mom who knew how to nap, as I don't function well on less than nine hours of sleep. I don't see an 8pm or earlier bedtime as happening for me.

So parents who do have children who wake up at these ungodly hours already (maybe if I'm lucky by then the schools will have switched the high school and elementary start times?), how do you do it? Do you wake up with your kids or do you let them get up and moving before you? Do you take a nap after everyone is off to school?

Because... you know I needed something to to start thinking about this morning, four years in advance.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Tasty Tuesday - Avocado Tomato Salad

On New Years Day, we were invited to a friend's house to celebrate her husband's birthday. She asked if I could bring a green salad, which ummm is something that I rarely make. And yes, I know I need to more often (see yesterday's post on my New Year's Resolutions). Unfortunately, the migraine got me. I had purchased the ingredients for what I thought was an ingenious salad, but I ended up spending the entire day in bed in a dark room avoiding all noise, light and thought of food.

So much for my salad at the party. Fortunately, yesterday I was feeling better, and I didn't want my ingredients to go to waste, so I decided to make the salad for myself. The only issue was the missing heads of Romaine that I had purchased. Apparently my husband had gotten ambitious and made a Caesar Salad (which hmmm I just realized I've never posted here - definitely something to rectify). This would explain why I thought I smelled garlic at some point on Sunday. I readjusted what I was making but still created a pretty tasty salad for myself. It would have been great with the Romaine, so I'm going to pretend like I was able to make it the way I'd intended. You'll play along, right?


Tomato Avocado Salad

Ingredients:
2 heads Romaine lettuce
4 medium avocados
1 pint grape tomatoes
1 bunch cilantro
1 1/2 c corn, fresh or frozen
1 c black beans (dried and prepped, if possible)
1/3 c red wine vinegar
1/4 c lime juice
juice of 1/2 orange
1/2 c olive oil
1 t salt (or more, to taste)
3/4 t chili powder
1/2 t cumin
(I did forget to buy some green onion, and that would be a great addition to this, thinly sliced and mixed with the veggies)

Directions:
Prepare your black beans, soaking them overnight then simmering them for an hour and a half until they are just tender. Personally, I am not a fan of canned black beans, as I find them too mushy and they would be especially in this recipe, I think.

Wash your Romaine, and cut it into chunks. Make sure it is dry before you put it into the salad. You can do this ahead of time, and cover it in the fridge with paper towels to keep the Romaine nice.

If you are using fresh corn, roast it so that it is just blackening, then cut it from the cob. If you are using frozen corn - which of course I did in January - heat it in a nonstick pan until it starts to brown a little bit. It adds a great roasted flavor when you do this, and it's super easy. Make sure to let the corn cool fully before you add it, as you don't want to cook the rest of the ingredients.

To make the dressing, place the red wine vinegar in a blender (I used my immersion blender with the deep container is comes with, which is a super easy way for me to do dressings), along with the lime juice, half of one of the avocados (remove the skin and pit!), the cumin, chili pepper, a half cup of cilantro, the salt, and the juice of the orange. Blend it until it's completely emulsified and a nice thick consistency. Feel free to taste it and adjust it to your liking. It will have a little bit of a kick, but this is what we're going for. Refrigerate this until you're ready to serve it. Making this ahead and letting the flavors meld is a benefit. You can always whip it up again just before dressing the salad if needed.


Slice your grape tomatoes in half, and chop your remaining 3 1/2 avocados into largish chunks. Remember that avocados tend to crumble as you stir, so you want to leave them relatively large. Chop your remaining cilantro.



Place the Romaine into a bowl, and dress it. You will most likely not use all the dressing, and that's fine. Start by putting about half on the Romaine and toss it, then slowly add some more until you get to what looks good to you. Add your veggies and beans atop the dressed lettuce and pour just a bit more of the dressing atop these. Gently toss one more time

Add all the veggies and the beans to a bowl, and stir gently. Serve immediately, and feel really healthy about what you're eating. And yes, I'm eating some of my leftover salad right now. It's still awesome. Without the Romaine, this would be a great dip with tortilla chips or - like I'm eating it - just by itself.


Enjoy this and more with Blessed With Grace and Tempt My Tummy Tuesday. Also posting now with A Southern Fairytale and her Mouthwatering Monday.

Monday, January 2, 2012

Happy New Year: The Year Of Me!

Ok, so a New Year's post should be written by New Year's Day, right? Well, mine isn't. And considering that organization of many aspects of my life is a big part of my goals for the next year, this isn't getting off to a good start, is it? Well, I have a good excuse. I've been down and out with migraines essentially since Wednesday night which have laid me up in my bedroom, dark and quiet (yes, I used earplugs when the wee ones were awake) with no food or movement. It was not pleasant and it's not like I even tied one on Saturday night since I'd already been down three days by then. Needless to say, any computer time was extremely limited - saved for the moments when the pain and nausea had receded somewhat and my boredom had overwhelmed me. Knock on wood, I've finally kicked it, so I'm pretending like today is New Year's Day. Work with me, will ya?

In 2012, I want to focus on making this the year of me in order to be able to be a better person, not just for myself but for everyone around me.

That sounds really bad, doesn't it? "The Year of Me" - but at the same time, it's something that not only I need to do, but most people I know need to do. My friends tend to spend all their time and energy focused on others, whether it's their spouses or children or volunteering or jobs or anything but them. I can only imagine what it will be like to get to forty or fifty years from now (if I live that long, at this rate) and find that I am miserable because I forgot to take care of myself in the interim and my health and sanity are zilch. Taking care of me doesn't mean ignoring everyone around me and their needs; on the contrary, taking care of people and accomplishing things are part of what makes me happy and is part of what I plan to continue doing. The difference is in not putting myself always last and in doing the little things for me that don't take away from others.

So what do I have on tap for me?

Flattering picture, isn't it? Yeah, there's a blog post coming about that.

A big one is getting organized, unfortunately. I warn people when they come to my house that they aren't allowed to open their eyes in my office. It's become my catch all spot, and it is full of unfiled (but paid) bills, photos, and tons more. By the time the wee ones gets out of school, I want that room the way I want it. That means I vow to take ten minutes a day to do something in the room, whether that's entering the unfiled bill information into my spreadsheet (yes, I track everything we spend by category to the penny - or did!) and putting it away or sorting out the items in there that are donations or going through the papers I no longer need and tossing them. Ten minutes isn't a huge amount of time, and when would I not have just ten minutes to spare? Assuming I complete this on time, the next area to tackle is the outgrown clothing from the wee ones. And the basement that has too many toys, including enough to make a garage sale worthwhile. First up is the office, however.

I also want to get more organized with my blog. This goal comes in a few parts. I am ready to move to a self-hosted blog. I need to find someone to work with who can help me move to WordPress, get a theme set up and plug-ins working, move over my current posts, and get me set up on my own host. So, hey, if you have any recommendations of who's great to work with, let me know. Did I mention that I want this up before Blissdom in February, which means I need to get moving on this now?

The second blog related thing for me is to set up a calendar for my posts. That doesn't mean I'll post every day - right there is a recipe for burnout and stress, which is definitely not taking care of me. It means that I'll look at what I have going on and figure out what I want to post when, which will help me stick to it. I love being organized, and this is something that makes me happy. Besides, do you know how many posts I have in my head that I forget to write because I never put them on a calendar? Trust me, we have a few Christmas related posts that will be coming yet. This week. Tomorrow after I get home from the dentist and gym, I will start writing out the calendar, and let's keep our fingers crossed that I stick to it.

Ah, yes, the gym. I've been good about going since mid-November or so, but this is something I need to keep doing. I've had several days where I've had "better things to do" or just didn't feel like going to the gym. As I remind myself every time I leave, however, I always feel better on my way out the door, no matter how I felt walking in. I don't have to kill myself every time, but I need to at least go and do something. I've been essentially lying in bed since Wednesday night with migraines, but tomorrow I'm going. I doubt I'll be able to do much since I have been able to eat almost nothing, so no two mile runs or anything fun like that, but ... I'll go and see what I can do.

And on the health front, ummm, I take care of the wee ones, but me? I need to do better. The easy one will be getting back to drinking more water. I carry a 40 ounce water bottle with me everywhere I go. I used to drink two to three of them a day, no problem. I'm not sure why, but now I can go a day drinking only half of one. There's no good reason for it, and there are days when I drink my normal amount of water, but this needs to be a regular occurrence. And yes, I did go fill up my water bottle already while writing this post. And just took a sip. Or four.

The harder health area will be getting my fruits and veggies in. You should see the food I have the wee ones eat. Their lunches always have a fruit and vegetable, and their snacks have either a fruit or veggie. And I usually give them carrots or something at dinner, as well. Me? Not so much. Oddly, I love fruit. And I actually enjoy eating most vegetables, but I just ... don't. I didn't grow up in a house where there was a vegetable on the plate every dinner, and I have yet to get into that habit. I'm focusing on changing that. Today I made an awesome avocado salad (with beans and tomatoes and corn, too), which is what I ate for lunch. And my snack is a cutie. But that's nowhere near the servings I'm supposed to be eating, is it? This will mean going to the produce markets I like more often and doing a better job of meal planning. Perhaps I should start a meal calendar in addition to the blog calendar, huh?

Looking at it, that really isn't all that huge to make this year about me, is it? The biggest thing is going to be staying focused on it and carving out the time to do what I say I'm going to do in my head. I have a feeling my portable white board is going to start getting a lot of use again, and I'm good with that. After all a healthy and organized me means and unstressed (ok, less stressed) me, and that's good for everyone around me.

So what are you focused on this coming year? How are you going to make this the year of you? Come share your resolutions with Trop50 on their Trop50 True Resolutions Facebook page.

In the interest of full disclosure, I received a $25 gift card for participating in the Trop50 True Resolutions campaign. That said, all opinions remain - as always - my own.

Thursday, December 29, 2011

BlogHer Book Club Review: The Magic Room

I'm always excited to receive new books, especially books that haven't been published yet, and I was especially anxious to read Jeffrey Zaslow's The Magic Room, remembering the joy I took in finding my own wedding dress many years ago (ahem, not too many, though). Though the book was sweet and relatively enjoyable, it didn't provide the magic for me that I was hoping it would.


The book is set up to have each chapter essentially standing on its own, focusing on the Becker's Bridal in Fowler, Michigan. Jeffrey Zaslow visited the salon dozens of times and focused on telling the stories of six women choosing their dresses from Becker's. The stories aren't simply of the trying on of dresses but of how the women got to the point they're at. Between each chapter of a woman's story, backstory of Becker's which has been at its location since 1934. After each woman's story is told, the later chapters further the stories of each woman, but for me, they weren't sufficiently differentiated enough for me to recall which woman was which, so I had to do a lot of flipping back and forth to keep things straight. I wish the stories had been compelling enough that I wouldn't have had an issue remembering who was who.

I was fascinated simply by the history of Becker's, which has remained in the family for four generations now. I would have been content simply hearing about that history instead of sharing the spotlight with the women, some of whom I frankly didn't like. It made the book fairly disjointed for me, but on the plus side, it also meant I could pick it up and put it down fairly easily since each chapter was so self-contained - and relatively short.

This probably isn't a book I would pick up to read on my own, but it isn't my style in the end. And were I to read this not a part of the BlogHer Book Club, I think I probably would have skipped the chapters on Danielle and Heather and the like and instead focused on Becker's - from the back office manager who essentially becomes the character of Franck to make brides more comfortable to how the store transitioned ownership from Shelley's parents to her, which was not a planned, smooth transition.

Not surprisingly, there are tons of things to discuss about the book, whether you've read it or not. Join us at the BlogHer Book Club discussion where this week we're talking about our own experiences of visiting the "magic room" and choosing our wedding dresses. What was yours like?

In the interest of full disclosure, I received a copy of "The Magic Room" by Jeffrey Zaslow for review purposes. I was also compensated for participating in this campaign, although all opinions remain - as always - my own.

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Tasty Tuesday - Egg Nog Cookies

Yes, I posted a cookie recipe last week. And yes, Christmas was two days ago, but I have another great cookie recipe that I just have to share. First of all, I can't be the only one with egg nog left in the fridge and no desire to drink any more of it, can I? Second, I entered this cookie into a local cookie contest, and it won so of course I have to share with you, right? That's what I thought.


Egg Nog Cookies

Ingredients:
1 c granulated sugar
1 c brown sugar
1 c butter, softened
1 t vanilla
3/4 c egg nog
2 eggs
1 1/2 t baking powder
1/2 t baking soda
1/2 t salt
1 t fresh ground nutmeg
2 t cinnamon
4 1/2 c flour

Directions:
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

In a bowl, cream the butter and sugar until it comes together again. Add the vanilla and egg nog, then beat again. Add the eggs one at a time, beating well with each addition. Add the baking powder, baking soda, salt, nutmeg, and cinnamon and mix well. Add the flour, stirring slowly until mixed.

Drop heaping spoonfuls onto a greased cookie sheet or sil pat and bake 14-17 minutes until lightly browned just at the very edges. Let cool on a piece of waxed paper or the sil pat to keep them soft and chewy. While they are still warm, sprinkle them with a little extra cinnamon to make them look extra pretty, something I neglected to do but wish I had.

Enjoy this and more with Blessed With Grace and Tempt My Tummy Tuesday. Also posting now with A Southern Fairytale and her Mouthwatering Monday.

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