Saturday, October 2, 2010

Boy, This Sounds Like Fun!

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Apparently this is Crabby Week here on my blog. My apologies for that, but I received something in the mail on Thursday that I simply have to share with you. It almost needs no comment or explanation, but ... I can't help myself.

A good friend from college (whom I don't see nearly enough) is getting married next weekend. I am invited, and I've been told by her that she's disappointed that many of our friends aren't able to make it.

Received in the mail Thursday (note, wedding = next weekend):
Now, apparently I may be a bit prudish, after reflecting on this for almost two days, but I am rather glad that I am not able to make the shower. I've never been to a l!ngerie shower before, but for some reason, the idea just doesn't appeal to me.

If you'll note, however:

There is nowhere to RSVP. I can't even tell the person who is hosting it that I won't be there. Now, I know that RSVPing is somewhat passe in this day and age (I've got a post brewing on that one, too - speaking of being crabby), but you'd think that the host would want at least a bit of an idea of who is going to come.

I love the last line requesting that no men or boys come, but that girl children are welcome. Really, girl children are welcome? No offense, but the gifts and discussion during a l!ngerie are really not what I'd want to show my daughter as how you enter marriage, whether she were 5 or 15. And as an adult, I wouldn't really be comfortable with other girls there, either.

My favorite part has to be the insert card though. It provides the exact sizes, so we know what to bring, no matter what kind of l!ngerie we choose to purchase (because any other gift will be out of place at this shower - the only one we're invited to).

I love how the insert specifies not just the size and what type of item but also what colors by type of item, the fabrics to buy them in, and what brands to purchase.

Oh, and just in case - please remember that gift receipt so she can take back whatever she doesn't want.

The whole affair strikes me as crass, although it does crack me up a little. Maybe I'm just crabby this week. Or maybe I'm too much of a prude, but ... I'm really glad that instead of this shower - did I mention it arrived eight days before the actual shower? No? Let me make sure I point that out then - I will be at a football game cheering on my Wildcats.

What do you think? Am I overreacting to this, or is this the norm for showers and I've just been blessed not to have been invited this way prior to now?


Amy October 2, 2010 at 11:48 AM  

Things like this are becoming more common - especially when most people who are getting married already have all the household stuff (toaster, coffee maker, etc.) they need, and if they haven't lived together they have two. We don't go straight from our parents' houses to our husbands' houses anymore. We feather our own nests.

There are better, less tacky, ways of handling it though.

septembermom October 2, 2010 at 12:47 PM  

That's the first time I heard of a lingerie shower. I couldn't imagine bringing a little girl/teen there.

Pat October 2, 2010 at 3:53 PM  

You're not overeacting to this crassness--the coarsening of our society. Everything about it seems crass and vulgar. I'm not surprised that many of your mutual friends are "not able to make it."

Mama Zen October 3, 2010 at 12:15 PM  

It seems kind of tacky to me.

Tara R. October 3, 2010 at 8:19 PM  

I've been to a lingerie shower before, but it was nothing like is described there. That is a bit over the top.

Donald October 4, 2010 at 10:45 AM  

Is the shower thrower a reader of your Blog?

Michelle October 4, 2010 at 1:31 PM  

Amy - I have no issues with a shower like this, although I do prefer having the option of what to buy for someone (that's a whole 'nother post), and she DOES have a nice, sufficiently large registry. It's the crassness of it though....

Kelly - Nope, no girl or teen of mine is going. Especially not with it starting at 8:45pm. I missed that part before!

Pat - The not being able to make it actually had nothing to do with the shower; that part is brand new. People unfortunately aren't able to make the entire wedding, which makes me sad, too!

Mama Zen - Phew, it's not just me :)

Tara - I'd been to one before, too, and not like this invite. Then again, until last year, I'd never received a generic thank you note from evite, either.

Don - Uhhh no. I don't actually know the shower thrower, which makes it hard to let her know I can't come since there's no RSVP info available.

Angela October 5, 2010 at 3:28 PM  

Okay, don't laugh, but I actually had a lingerie shower when I got married. HOWEVER, and I will be quick to add this, it was neither described nor handled in the manner of the one you mention. Mine was thrown by my closest girlfriends and female family, and no one outside that group (who might have felt uncomfortable with the context) was invited to that particular shower. Also, the invitations were very tasteful and just gave a feel for the theme, without specifying lingerie only and (egads) without specifying sizes! Lots of family brought things more like cotton pj's, etc. which was awesome as well as the more slinky stuff. Lastly, it was held at lunchtime and most outrageous thing we did was drink mimosas, LOL. Even my grandmother (as southern lady as they come) was there and loved it, so you can tell nothing crazy went on!

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