Monday, May 19, 2008

Mythbusters: Moms CAN Eat A Meal In One Sitting

It’s a running joke that moms never get to sit down for a full meal, nor do we get to eat our food while it’s hot. Tonight at dinner, I decided to count how many times I got up.

First, I placed Mister Man’s and Little Miss’s dinner plates on the table, along with forks, napkins, and cups of milk. That should be all we need, right?

Nope, two minutes in, Mister Man finished his milk and wants more. (1)

The Little Miss decided she had to go potty. (2)

She decided she wanted no help, so I sat back down. The she couldn’t get her pants off, so in I went to help her. (3)

Mister Man finished course one of his dinner and decided he wanted some banana mousse (plain yogurt, a banana, vanilla and a tiny bit of sugar blended together and chilled). That, of course, was in the refrigerator. (4)

Oops, forgot to get him a spoon for his mousse. (5)

When she finished, she of course needed help getting her pants all the way up. (6)

Next up (aside me me – ha, ha) was Little Miss seeing that Mister Man had banana mousse. Of course, were I thinking, I would have gotten her some mousse at the same time I got some for him. But I did remember her spoon. (7)

Then Little Miss decided she wanted a banana to dip in her banana mousse. (8)

Mister Man finished cup of milk number two and asked for some water. (9)

Little Miss decided she wanted water, too – tell me when you start to sense a theme here. (10)

Mister Man finished his banana mousse and asked for some carrots. (11)

Little Miss dropped part of the banana on the floor. (12)

Mister Man got excited and spilled some of his water, and his napkin wasn’t enough to soak it up. (13)

Little Miss decided a potty break was in order again. This time, I went with her to pull her pants down. (14)

Then Mister Man decided he was still hungry and wanted some watermelon granita (watermelon, blended with a tiny bit of sugar and some lemon juice, frozen and stirred with a fork about every 45 minutes until fully frozen. It makes fluffy ice, a great light summer dessert). And yes, I got a bowl for Little Miss at the same time. And me, too. It’s good stuff! (15)

Meow jumped up on the chair and decided he was going to join the family, so I kindly asked him to get off the chair. That didn’t work, so I got up to dump him off the chair. (16)

My phone went off, so I silenced it. (17)

The wee ones finally finished dinner. Mister Man ran into the bathroom to wash his hands and face, then presented them to me for inspection. He got them clean, but Little Miss still had watermelon granita on her face, so into the bathroom I went in with her to help scrub her face. (18)

Finally, I finished my dinner. Oh, I mean after we went upstairs, went potty one last time, brushed our teeth, put on our pjs, read a Bob book, and got into bed after hugs and kisses. But really, I did get to finish it. And it was so quiet when I did, too.

I feel like the owl from the Tootsie Pop commercial!

Of note… no, my husband wasn’t home at the time. Had he been, maybe I would have only had to get up 17 times. And that’s because the cat wouldn’t have jumped up in the chair had my husband been home and sitting in it.

Now the big question: How do I still not figure out that when one child gets something new, the next child is immediately going to want the same thing? It isn’t like I’m a new mom or this is a new phenomenon. And I can’t blame it on baby brain anymore, I don’t think.

Maybe it’s just my subconscious way of ensuring I get more exercise on a daily basis. No, wait. It’s a conscious way to get more exercise and ensure I take my time eating my food. Yeah… that’s it. I do it on purpose.


Anonymous May 19, 2008 at 7:53 PM  

Were you eating dinner at my house this evening?! I went to Las Vegas several weeks ago, and the best part of the whole trip was eating all my meals uninterrupted! I want to go on vacation again just to repeat the phenomenon!

Feener May 19, 2008 at 9:10 PM  

ahhh mealtime. i swear by the time i sit down to eat they are long gone.....potty breaks, forks needed....

Cookie May 19, 2008 at 10:47 PM  

LOL That is funny! So was the Myth "busted" or are you planning another experiment?
My favorite is when my husband calls right as I sit down and says that he's on his way home, so I can make his dinner?!

Mary May 20, 2008 at 10:18 AM  

That's so true!!! Even my husband asks me to get up - for the salt and pepper or something like that. He just gets the glare of death.

My favorite meal of the day is the midnight meal. When all the kids are in bed!

Jeff May 20, 2008 at 4:29 PM  

Funny. I can't remember a single time when my mom ate dinner with us when we were kids. I always just thought she didn't like to eat.

Karen May 20, 2008 at 8:53 PM  

It's the fatique from jumping up and down that keeps you from thinking logically about things.

Michelle May 20, 2008 at 9:22 PM  

DWTBO -- You didn't notice me there? Actually, I was spying in the window with my remote camera and just reporting on what I saw there....

Feener -- I keep telling myself that it's important to eat as a family, so I try. I really do try. I should just get a plate of plastic food and have my real meal later so it doesn't get cold and yucky.

Cookie -- I should correct the post to note that the myth was busted! So do you make his dinner when he calls like that, or do you just leave his plate sitting out a little longer?

Mary -- My husband at least has the grace to not ask me to get anything. And I shouldn't exaggerate too much; there are times when he gets up to get something when I've gotten up more than normal and start heaving a sigh every time the wee ones make a request. I actually at my dinner in peace tonight, but that was because I went to yoga so ate after I got home when the wee ones were in bed.

Jeff -- Are you sure she doesn't like to eat? It turns out that my mom truly doesn't like food, which explains why she'd make an entire box of spaghetti then leave it in a Ziploc in the fridge for us to pick at when we got hungry....

Karen -- I like the way you think. I'm too tired to make sense. I'll be able to use that excuse for years ;)

Cookie May 20, 2008 at 11:26 PM  

Sometimes I do get up and start cooking something for hub when he calls. Sometimes I plan ahead and cook his dinner at the same time as everyone else's and sometimes I ignore the phone and let the machine get it ;) and no, I'm not moody!

Jules May 23, 2008 at 11:09 PM  

My kids are older than yours and still, O usually finish my meal after everyone has gone to sleep. *sigh*
Good thing I'm a night owl.

Michelle May 24, 2008 at 10:00 PM  

Jules -- you aren't making me feel any better here. I'm counting on "things getting easier and better when they get older" -- some days I really need that hope to get through the day with a modicum of sanity!

ConversationsWithACupcake January 29, 2009 at 1:02 AM  

Ahhh. Dinnertime. Sunday afternoon. Midnight.

All the times we mom's will one day relax.

But not today.

(And, frankly...that's okay. I'm sort of all fore chubby fingers and squished sleeping arrangements in exchange for the few frantic moments.)

Happy SITS day!

The Rambler January 29, 2009 at 1:19 AM  

That was excellent..squeeze me, need to get 2 year old out of fridge (1).

Loved Loved Loved...(need to find out why dog is barking at kid, 2)..your blog.

Congrats on being the...(Geessssus, I just need 2 seconds here, what are you both doing..3)...FEATURED BLOGGER.


That was fun!

{Katie Lane} January 29, 2009 at 1:34 AM  

This is funny, the joys I have to look forward too!

Louisa January 29, 2009 at 1:43 AM  

I love this!! too funny!

Jennifer P. January 29, 2009 at 2:35 AM  

I get the occasion to eat a meal on my own from time to time, and I actually find myself getting very fidgety about 10 minutes into it. Maybe that's why grandma's are always asking "do you need anything else dear" and hoping you say yes! :)

Enjoy your SITS day!!!

Jamie January 29, 2009 at 3:06 AM  

Happy SITS day!

Laurel January 29, 2009 at 3:07 AM  

We live in parallel universes! I so hear ya honey - one day a hot meal will be had. I just need not to be grumpy about it!

Eve January 29, 2009 at 4:39 AM  

Funny and oh so true! We call my husband the middle man at dinner time because he is the one I pass everything to, who then gets to pass it, blow on it, cut it etc for the little angels! LOL

Preston January 29, 2009 at 5:15 AM  

As your kids get older, the dinner time "breaks" will get fewer and fewer. Eventually, you'll get to eat your dinner with everyone else, once you can get the teens to the table, that is...

Kathy January 29, 2009 at 5:30 AM  

At least when they get older they lose their fascination with the potty. Now getting them to come out of the shower to eat on time...

Happy SITS day!
What a beautiful blog! I love your title line.

Astrid January 29, 2009 at 5:37 AM  

Happy SITS day!

Oh gosh. The up and down at the dinner table drives me crazy. Usually hubby handles it so I can stay sitting. It's nice when he's here...and not so nice when he's not.

Astrid January 29, 2009 at 5:37 AM  

Happy SITS day!

Oh gosh. The up and down at the dinner table drives me crazy. Usually hubby handles it so I can stay sitting. It's nice when he's here...and not so nice when he's not.

mommytoalot January 29, 2009 at 5:52 AM  

Wow...that is way more up and down than I do..and i have seven at home.

Heather January 29, 2009 at 6:00 AM  

This is an exercise class they don't have at my local Y - the Dinner Dance Workout! Think of all the abdominals work you're getting with the sitting, standing, bending, etc.... :)

Love the post! Happy SITS day!

Brenda Jean January 29, 2009 at 6:11 AM  

bahahahahahahaha Yeah, that's it, we are just exercising during dinner:) Some days I think I should just eat standing up, in the kitchen.

Ryan Ashley Scott@Optimistic Cynicism January 29, 2009 at 6:18 AM  

Sad but true. At least we can laugh about it, right?

On a side note, I have to try the watermelon granita thing. My mouth is watering just thinking of it! Got anymore of those ideas to share?

Erika January 29, 2009 at 6:21 AM  

Thanks for the laughs! Congrats on your SITS feature!!

Anonymous January 29, 2009 at 6:32 AM  

I only have one and I still can't sit through meals.

So funny (an slightly sad), but think of all the extra excerise we moms sneak in and don't even realize it.

Jeanne January 29, 2009 at 6:34 AM  

At least you're getting some exercise!

Shelley January 29, 2009 at 6:39 AM  

For the simpletons like me ( who have lost most of our brain cells because we never get to eat on time or when it's hot) please post recipes for those delicious sounding treats. Thanks.

Anonymous January 29, 2009 at 6:43 AM  

Sigh...and here I thought that drinking cold coffee was only going to last through the baby stage. :)

Tiffany January 29, 2009 at 6:48 AM  

This is so my life. To a "t". I was just wondering when I'd get to eat a hot dinner or have my coffee be hot when I drank the last bit.

I love it! Glad I'm not the only one :)

Congrats on your SITS day as well. They definitely chose a winner!

HeatherY January 29, 2009 at 6:48 AM  

You know that say it is better for you to eat standing up anyway. ;-)

Queenie Jeannie January 29, 2009 at 6:55 AM  

Over from SITS....That was a great post and soooo true!! But I don't do it on purpose....*sigh*

Creative Junkie January 29, 2009 at 7:07 AM  

LOL! I remember those days very well!

Leslie January 29, 2009 at 7:16 AM  

Funny and oh so true!! They say that families are all supposed to eat dinner together but that is a little hard when you are getting up 18 times!! I usually just wait until they are finished because sometimes it is nice to eat a meal in quiet!! Love your blog!

Lisa M January 29, 2009 at 7:23 AM  

I've got 3 kids, and I've learned that what works for us is to bring everything to the table for supper. Extra napkins, drinks, the food. everything. served family style. Then i bring the dessert out. It works so much better at my house now!
Happy SITS day!

Mercedes January 29, 2009 at 7:25 AM  

almost need a baby sitter for dinner time.

Stesha January 29, 2009 at 7:27 AM  

Dinner time=Exercise time!

Hugs and Mocha,

ScrappinAway January 29, 2009 at 7:33 AM  

Oh, that was too funny. I haven't got to that stage yet, but now I know what I can look forward to....weight loss!

My First Kitchen January 29, 2009 at 7:41 AM  

Hilarious. You have made moms everywhere feel like they're not alone. :) I hope you have a great SITS day!

Jaden Paige January 29, 2009 at 7:52 AM  

I am rolling! This was so funny and SO TRUE!!!

Awesome post :)

Modern Mama Diana January 29, 2009 at 7:53 AM  

oh my gosh - you must have been tired!!!!!!! i do the up and down thing but I don't think it's ever been that much. LOL Happy SITS Day!!

Kendra January 29, 2009 at 7:54 AM  

Now that is my life. LOL

Happy SITS day.

melanie @ don't expect much January 29, 2009 at 7:55 AM  

Too funny! I was reading your post thinking "Mister Man" was your hubby... until I got to the end... My brain was screaming "TELL THAT MAN TO GET HIS OWN DRINK!" Thank goodness I didn't have to say it outloud... hehe

Anonymous January 29, 2009 at 7:55 AM  

This is hysterical because it is so true! Luckily my husband helps out a ton, so I'm not the only one getting up. When he's gone, sometimes I just feed everyone first and then serve myself so my food will still be hot.

Anonymous January 29, 2009 at 7:58 AM  

I promise you, it won't be this way forever. I'll be glad when I don't have to make the meal anymore. Right now, I'm glad they can serve themselves.

Tara January 29, 2009 at 8:04 AM  

You just described my dinnertime fun! yes, that's me too...i'm going to count tonight so i have an accurate number. I must be hitting the 20 mark...easily!

Jenna Lewis Cox January 29, 2009 at 8:06 AM  

hehehehe. so funny, very cute and a little tiring...right? great post!

Willo January 29, 2009 at 8:13 AM  

When my husband is home I end up getting up more!

Brandy January 29, 2009 at 8:14 AM  

Just think, when they are older it will be time for payback.

Ask them to get additional napkins, missing ketchup, drinks from garage, etc.

Blue Castle January 29, 2009 at 8:15 AM  

That's a lot of getting up and sitting back down. Whew. I'm tired just reading your post. :)

Lyssa Ireland Thomas January 29, 2009 at 8:15 AM  

I'm exhausted just reading this post! :) Maybe you should wear a pedometer to see if you're getting your daily 10,000 steps at dinner alone?

Thrifty and Chic Mom January 29, 2009 at 8:16 AM  

Funny I guess at least you got some food right?

anti-supermom January 29, 2009 at 8:29 AM  

I'm so stealing that - dinner time should totally count as exercise.

Happy sitsta day~

The Me/ The Wife/ The Mom January 29, 2009 at 8:32 AM must sleep peacefully at night.

Christina Lee January 29, 2009 at 8:38 AM  

too funny and sadly true! happy SITS day!

Kelly Deneen January 29, 2009 at 8:52 AM  

That is hilarious. hehe. And so true! Of course you are probably much more accomodating about the food/drink that I would be. ha! Happy SITS day to you!!

Reluctant Housewife January 29, 2009 at 8:56 AM  

I'm glad you finally got to finish eating... Sounds like you need your sustenance!

MammaDucky January 29, 2009 at 9:09 AM  

Ah, being a Mom...such fun. Am I the only one that REALLY, REALLY wants banana mousse and watermelon granita???

Michelle January 29, 2009 at 9:20 AM  

That's a lot of getting up!

Vickie January 29, 2009 at 9:22 AM  

Dinner for me is not too bad. My Hubby does help. But this is the story of my lunch with the kids. You would think with all the bouncing up and down I do, I would lose more weight:)

BTW, baby/mommy brain lasts until the kids are about 18 years of age. At least I have been told.

Charmaine January 29, 2009 at 9:30 AM  

I truly think one of the nicest luxuries is having breakfast made for me - I guess all the meals would be nice too, but really it's breakfast for me.

Missouri Musings January 29, 2009 at 9:32 AM  

Wow, you should check out if there's a Guiness World Record for that yet. Sounds like you'd definitely be in the running!

Happy SITS day!

Sarah J. January 29, 2009 at 9:48 AM  

My husband and I were just talking about this the other day! When will get a hot meal that we can stay seated for? We determined it's only possible if we eat after the kids are in bed. lol!

T January 29, 2009 at 9:55 AM  

I always tell my hubby that the big difference between his mother and I is that I refuse to get up during the meal... of course, that's probably why she's infinitely thinner than I am...

Ex-in-the-City January 29, 2009 at 10:04 AM  

I'm not sure how I got through those days, but I did. Nowadays with my daughters on their own and Mr. Ex gone too, I sit on the couch and eat with my dogs next to me. They sit quietly, don't beg for food off my plate, never interrupt & take themselves out the doggie door to go potty. It's sweet, but a little boring.

Amy January 29, 2009 at 10:18 AM  

Wow, thanks for busting that myth! This happens to me all the time at dinner. I'm always the last one at the table to finish my dinner or, like you, just don't eat until the wee ones are in bed. 'Tis the season of our lives, right?

P.S. visiting from SITS :-)

Michelle Sybert January 29, 2009 at 10:23 AM  

ugh! reading your post was like reliving my dinnertime "ritual"!!! thanks for making me laugh about though!

Alicia @ Oh2122 January 29, 2009 at 10:25 AM  

Oh, man. It's a wonder we eat at all!

Lea Ann January 29, 2009 at 10:43 AM  

OMG that drive me INSANE. I have started ignoring ALL requests. Now my husband gets up for everything. ha ha!

Hillbilly Duhn January 29, 2009 at 10:46 AM  

Oh goodness, do I know this routine!! LOL

Popping in from SITS.

ParentingPink January 29, 2009 at 10:50 AM  

I can sooooooo relate to this post! With three little ones, I'm lucky if I get a bite to eat after getting up over half a dozen times! Thanks for the laugh!

E. Sloane Cannon January 29, 2009 at 11:07 AM  

That's so funny! Makes me look forward to being a parent ;-) Stopping by from SITS, awesome blog!

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Erin.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• January 29, 2009 at 11:35 AM  

Uh as I type I just finished up a very cold bowl of oatmeal. LOL! I thought I had timed it just right, clearly I misjudged. But a diaper change, nursing session, and 10 minutes later I got to eat my breakfast :)

Happy SITS day!

Barb January 29, 2009 at 11:36 AM  

This explains why so many moms are thinner than we non-moms! I need to go borrow me some kids!

Mimi January 29, 2009 at 11:54 AM  

I bet you can't get a bathroom break by yourself either??

Enjoy your SITS day, I've really liked visiting your blog!

Janna January 29, 2009 at 12:11 PM  

I've so been there, and will be there again tonight! Thanks for sharing!

Tori C. (The Sweet Jelly Bean) January 29, 2009 at 12:20 PM  

I don't even have kids and I'm chuckling!

Andrea January 29, 2009 at 12:28 PM  

Too funny. Happy SITS day!

Tabitha Blue January 29, 2009 at 12:30 PM  

Oh yes, the nightly dinner routine, what fun!!!


Eudea-Mamia January 29, 2009 at 1:33 PM  

I'm 10 pounds thinner than my pre-mommy me because of this phenomenon. Doesn't mean I don't miss a nice, warm meal.

Preferably in a restuarant, with girl friends and a bottle of wine.

Too much to ask?

Congrats on being Saucy!

Angela January 29, 2009 at 1:39 PM  

I decided a LONG time ago that if you've EVER had a baby then you can ALWAYS use the baby brain excuse!!

Ali January 29, 2009 at 1:43 PM  

HaHa! This sounds very familiar!

Michelle January 29, 2009 at 1:50 PM  

That stops when they are old enough to get things for themselves! I started them off young because I hate eating cold food. :)

Laura January 29, 2009 at 1:57 PM  

I'm not to that stage yet, but it sounds like a good workout.

countryfriedmama January 29, 2009 at 2:12 PM  

It's the mommy diet. We should all be thin as supermodels, but alas, it doesn't seem to work out that way.

Pamela January 29, 2009 at 2:25 PM  

Motherhood has been the best diet plan for me. If I'm not jumping up then someone is eating my food, mine must taste better

Pamela January 29, 2009 at 2:25 PM  

Motherhood has been the best diet plan for me. If I'm not jumping up then someone is eating my food, mine must taste better

Sherrie January 29, 2009 at 2:39 PM  

Oh I love it! Sounds like my house! LOL! Mom is ALWAYS the last one to eat in our house...gotta love it!

April January 29, 2009 at 2:42 PM  

i was jsut discussing this with anohter mom a few days ago. between getting thigns for my 4 yr old, feeding my 11 month old and serving my husband, yeah I should be thinner than I am

Coffee with Cathy January 29, 2009 at 2:56 PM  

At least you have a great sense of humor about it! Thanks for sharing with us.

Natalie January 29, 2009 at 3:28 PM  

i am just so glad to know that it is not just me that has to do this!!! oh and we make the watermelon stuff too in the summer and we all love it!

Kimm at Reinvented January 29, 2009 at 3:52 PM  

Haven't we all been THERE! Too funny, I've never counted before, don't think I want to. ;)

momma January 29, 2009 at 4:19 PM  

those recipes look great! i'll have to try them sometime.

i know that wasn't the point of your post, but i'm glad you took time to share them :)

♥Sarahlcc♥ January 29, 2009 at 4:25 PM  

Oh, this is too true! I should count the number of times I get up as well, maybe it's why I stay so skinny ~ I don't get enough to eat and I'm exercizing all the time! LOL!

angie January 29, 2009 at 5:48 PM  


Mandi January 29, 2009 at 5:53 PM  

Oh my goodness, I LOVED this post - and oh how accurate! I should count how many times I get up tonight at dinner. It'll be a good experiment ;-) Haha!!

Allison January 29, 2009 at 6:13 PM  

So true...Happy SITS day!

Leslie January 29, 2009 at 6:38 PM  

That IS bad. But WHEN I was married, my husband was completely oblivious to these things. I remember one time in particular at a restaurant. I fed the baby while my food got cold, like normal. Then I asked my husband to take the baby and change his diaper while I quickly ate my dinner...and then we'd leave. He argued about not having a changing table in the men's bathroom. I'm like, deal with it, I always do. Instead, I gave in and took the baby to be changed. When I got back to the table, it had been cleared. I asked him what happened to my dinner. He said he thought I was done. I reminded him of my original request for HIM to change the baby so I could eat. Ultimately, we stopped by McDonalds on the way home so that I didn't have to COOK when I got home. I didn't speak to my husband for DAYS.

I'm single now. : )

- Leslie

Mikki Black January 29, 2009 at 6:42 PM  

Wow. This is a popular post. (Good to know we're all in the same boat, I guess)

Congrats on your SITS feature!

Katie January 29, 2009 at 8:25 PM  

You're so right! I should see how many times I have to get up too. This made me smile, thanks!

blognut January 29, 2009 at 8:43 PM  

This is the sort of thing you shouldn't keep track of because it will just drive you nuts!

Kim January 29, 2009 at 9:46 PM  

I have soooo been there, but I promise it gets better as they get older! Love your blog!

Shannon January 29, 2009 at 10:58 PM  

Great post! Thankfully, my girls are old enough now to get things on their own, LOL!

Fairy Princess Garden January 29, 2009 at 11:27 PM  

Hi Fellow SITSta, I can totally relate to this post. I'm same as you except double the kids and one very hyper child to add. Thanks for making me think to count.

Anonymous January 29, 2009 at 11:57 PM  

I love that line from A Christmas Story where the kid says something like "My mom hasn't had a hot meal since 1942" or something like that.

Christie January 30, 2009 at 12:34 AM  

Great post! You had me laughing!
I love that at in the end you decided the getting up and down was a conscious decision.

Tranquility January 30, 2009 at 12:52 AM  

haha - this was my life until I took a page out of my MIL's book and brought all the available dinner/dessert/drink items to sit on the table with us before hand. Now I only have to get up about 10 times during the meal!

Nicole O'Dell January 30, 2009 at 6:03 AM  

Hilarious and so true!

Happy SITS day!

Joy January 30, 2009 at 7:45 AM  

Gosh this is so true.

jubilee January 30, 2009 at 8:23 AM  

Sounds like our dinner time routine. Exercise, yeah, that's it! Does that count as my 30 min of exercise for the day?

penguinsandladybugs January 30, 2009 at 9:03 AM funny and yet just a tad depressing...I've never counted....can't believe you did :)

Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting January 30, 2009 at 1:55 PM  

ok, it isn't just our kids being related. We are. I swear it. You're my twin :) Read the most recent posts on my blog, you'll see ;)

Rae Ann January 30, 2009 at 9:31 PM  

I don't knows how she did it, my my mom NEVER got up from the dinner table. It was shocking when I met my in-laws to see my future mom-in-law bobbing up and down like a cork, getting things for everyone else. Sadly, I am following in her footsteps. I can't remember the last time I actually sat all the way through a meal. Maybe when the kiddos are older!

Tracy P. January 31, 2009 at 12:20 AM  

I would have thought it would be too depressing to count, but I think you've demonstrated that we are all getting excellent daily workouts!

angela | the painted house February 1, 2009 at 7:48 PM  

Ha! Sounds so familiar! Hope you enjoyed your SITS day!

Jennifer February 2, 2009 at 12:15 AM  

Oh man! wow! Things to look forward to when I become a mom I guess :)

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