tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post6274544605742315950..comments2023-10-05T04:21:52.525-05:00Comments on Honest And Truly!: Helicopters?Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-3312639768731790462010-03-28T23:00:59.477-05:002010-03-28T23:00:59.477-05:00Elizabeth - I'm so with you. I've really ...Elizabeth - I'm so with you. I've really been trying to lay back more and more now that he's in kindergarten, but sometimes it's hard. Great book recommendation that's been a huge help to me: Dr. Kenneth Ginsburg's Building Resilience in Children. Read it, and it makes so much sense....Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-89005022351550708772009-09-04T14:45:50.167-05:002009-09-04T14:45:50.167-05:00This is a great reminder. I think I hover a little...This is a great reminder. I think I hover a little sometimes, especially because I know Jackson is prone to hitting when he feels like someone wronged him. But other times, I let him explore on his own and I will tell you it makes other parents VERY nervous. Once at a park, when he was playing in a fountain, a dad even grabbed him to keep him off of a rock. I was letting him climb and explore on Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04185549963848472081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-47399711654219958202009-08-16T15:06:12.559-05:002009-08-16T15:06:12.559-05:00bettyl - True, abuse and worse is not something ea...bettyl - True, abuse and worse is not something easily recovered from. But hovering has its own challenges. I just keep hopingg that there is an adequate balance that I reach.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-18968884002839256342009-08-15T20:05:09.647-05:002009-08-15T20:05:09.647-05:00It's definitely hard to find the right balance...It's definitely hard to find the right balance. But, then I'd rather be TOO protective than not enough--they can get over hovering, but not being abused or worse.betty-NZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03950300478215339641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-50806227616613362842009-08-11T20:54:12.593-05:002009-08-11T20:54:12.593-05:00Barb - Hmmm, I need the urban dictionary again -- ...Barb - Hmmm, I need the urban dictionary again -- jellyfish? Brick wall? I may have to check out that book. Remind me if I don't say anything about it soon!<br /><br />Laura - That's EXACTLY the line -- how do you ensure in public that you don't have the hooligans that everyone hates but yet you aren't micromanaging things....<br /><br />Weaselmomma - Yep. I'm with you on Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-38459966535926698302009-08-11T14:01:40.462-05:002009-08-11T14:01:40.462-05:00Hmm, quite thought provoking.Hmm, quite thought provoking.Claudya Martinezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034216831504207496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-7263898475573075132009-08-11T11:09:23.669-05:002009-08-11T11:09:23.669-05:00I'm pretty on top of my kids out in public, so...I'm pretty on top of my kids out in public, so I guess I might be like you, a little more helicopter than I realize. But, I have a really strict noninterventionist rule at home - don't cry to me, talk to each other type thing. This was a really interesting post, I"ll definitely be thinking about how much I interfere next time we are at the playground!anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-25232276264174236132009-08-10T22:58:23.381-05:002009-08-10T22:58:23.381-05:00I'm not a helicoptoer... Not sure where I fit...I'm not a helicoptoer... Not sure where I fit in.Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06447479295354195982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-85968529400686021312009-08-10T22:12:56.593-05:002009-08-10T22:12:56.593-05:00If you look at most adults today, we all pretty mu...If you look at most adults today, we all pretty much know how to get along. But how many adults can communicate effectively? How many have learned to control their temper? Could we all learn a lesson or two about talking things out? I think so. I think there is always room for improvement, and if we're not watching them, how will we know when to help and when to let them work it out Ryan Ashley Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13515371602427605756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-55576018138945746862009-08-10T20:30:39.962-05:002009-08-10T20:30:39.962-05:00It's a hard balance to figure out because each...It's a hard balance to figure out because each child is so different! <br /><br />I will say since I work at a high school just how damaging helicopter parenting is - those kids either stomp around like two year olds very disrespectfully demanding everyone respect them with such a sense of entitlement! Or they have no clue how to even ask a simple question on their own until their mommy gets Marthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12500564300569765406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-65841838052473366442009-08-10T16:43:22.834-05:002009-08-10T16:43:22.834-05:00This is a great post, and problem I am struggling ...This is a great post, and problem I am struggling with lately as well - I had to remind myself the other day that Cooper is ONLY 4, and that I was setting the behavior bar just a tad too high. I do try to let the kids run free as much as possible, but also try hard to make sure that they know there is an acceptable way to behave in public - I think I often walk the fine line when handling those Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-21381513878001847662009-08-10T11:32:32.095-05:002009-08-10T11:32:32.095-05:00I do like to encourage independence in my children...I do like to encourage independence in my children. However, I will watch very closely when they are playing in a large group. Having three boys, you never know what rough (and sometimes really rough) play may start. I keep my eye on the situation. My boys don't start any conflicts on the playground. They will go after each other sometimes. With my 4 year old daughter, I do tend to septembermomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01570525910483384484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-22199362425790572702009-08-10T10:01:21.404-05:002009-08-10T10:01:21.404-05:00My mom's rotors must have been broken because ...My mom's rotors must have been broken because she never hovered over me at any time. <br /><br />I was more of a "hands off" dad when my kids were little and tended to let things play out as much as possible - as long as they weren't hurting anybody or acting like total jerks.<br /><br />On the other hand, I was often amazed by the parents who did nothing to supervise or controlJeff and Charli Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13868852480996815442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-41099464220016092482009-08-10T09:37:44.296-05:002009-08-10T09:37:44.296-05:00I have 3 grown sons, 26, 28 and 30. With each chi...I have 3 grown sons, 26, 28 and 30. With each child I was less hovering, partly because they learned to work thigs out over time. I did as Laura did, "if you make the other one shriek you both go to your room." I always pushed them toward independence because they tended to be passive and reserved, especially #1 and #3. #2 has always been very independent.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04587300140099806425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-62663882834833569722009-08-10T06:59:39.613-05:002009-08-10T06:59:39.613-05:00I'm not even on the landing pad. That said, I&...I'm not even on the landing pad. That said, I've never let my kids run "wild"; I think perhaps I was on the landing pad when my kids were toddlers, but quickly taught myself to choose my battles; it is SO important to let them have a little rope. As long as they're not causing trouble for anyone else. If that happened, I would pull them aside (or, better yet, give them the Melisa Wellshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14252498482861679154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-58331963264219555182009-08-10T06:10:09.600-05:002009-08-10T06:10:09.600-05:00It sure is a hard balance to find. When to let it...It sure is a hard balance to find. When to let it go and when to step in, is a struggle that I share every day. I try to err on the side of independence, but often find my self directing the situation.WeaselMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695797746467444304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-19802531075928570972009-08-10T04:11:10.274-05:002009-08-10T04:11:10.274-05:00I try to let my kids work things out. But for my s...I try to let my kids work things out. But for my sanity I have rule "if you make the other one shriek you both go to your room" that way they are learning to talk things out rather than scream it out. Gee I don't know where they got that?? I try to let them run wild with a few rules, I don't want to be that mom that people hate 'cause her kids are hooligans but they are loudLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15013152465802223976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5494655959430218526.post-27667424736958225442009-08-09T23:51:34.887-05:002009-08-09T23:51:34.887-05:00Not a brick wall, not a jellyfish, and not a helic...Not a brick wall, not a jellyfish, and not a helicopter. Not sure what I'd call me, but my values mirror yours. When your kids are small, you have to guide them but let them learn. Most of what I base my parenting on came from Barbara Coloraso's book, Kids Are Worth It. So far, it's more than paid for itself :)<br /><br />Have a great week!Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.com